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the no contact rule

Yes, the no contact rule is painstaking, ultimately it makes you think of that person much more, or at least it feels like that. Every minute feels like an hour, and at times you may even hear your heart beating while the time slowly passes.   <iframe src=”https://giphy.com/embed/ql4LidslabKpi” width=”480″ height=”271″ frameBorder=”0″ class=”giphy-embed” allowFullScreen></iframe><p><a href=”https://giphy.com/gifs/irritated-ql4LidslabKpi”>via GIPHY</a></p>   The rule can also feel confusing at times, you…

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Do Narcissists Know How To Love?

If I had a dime for every time someone has asked me this question, I would be a very wealthy woman. As with everything concerning Narcissists, the answer is not cut and dry. It is blatantly obvious that it appears that they do not know how to love. After all, who would treat someone they love like that? Is love manipulation and abuse? No, no,…

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Do Narcissists Know What They’re Doing?

There appears to be a lot of misinformation out there regarding narcissistic motivation. Does a narcissist know that they are manipulative and abusive? Do they know they are removing your sense of self and bringing crazy into your life? This article explores exactly that. But before delving in, the answer is no. HOW DO NARCISSISTS COME TO BE In a basic description, narcissists’ brains are…

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How To Find The Strength To Leave A Toxic Relationship

If you are in a toxic relationship summoning the strength to leave can be complicated, conflicting, and courageous. Your sense of self and self-worth has been chipped away at and you are most likely exhausted from the constant manipulation. On a positive note, realizing that you need to get out is the hardest step of them all. However, getting there is not always easy. Here…

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Help! I Work With A Narcissist.

Yes, there are narcissists everywhere…even in your office. They can be a handful and exhausting, frustrating, annoying. You name it. How do you work with them and not go crazy? Take a look at the tips below for some guidance. They want your attention. Listen, smile, nod, and relax. They are not interested in your response, so no need to bother. If this person is…

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Stop Those Bad Thoughts

We all have them. That little voice in the back of our brains tells us not to do something, not to change, not to take that chance. If you want to know about that little voice, check out the following article: Hi! I Am The Voice In Your Head In the meantime, what are some ways to keep that voice quiet? That thought isn’t helpful…

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Hi! I Am The Voice In Your Head

Rick Carson, back in 1983, wrote a book named; Taming Your Gremlin. (Revised, 2003) As he so aptly named, the Gremlin is the voice in your head that gets in your way of moving forward and getting things done. This book is fantastic, and I highly recommend it. In this article, I will go over the basics of the Gremlin and how you can begin…

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8 Signs You’re In A Toxic Relationship

Is it just me, or does it seem today that so many toxic people live in the world? Okay, I know it is not just me. However, there has been a significant increase in toxic people over the last ten years. According to The American Psychological Association; “You can look at individual scores of narcissism, you can look at data on lifetime prevalence of Narcissistic…

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Exiting A Toxic Relationship

Anyone in a toxic relationship or has been in one knows the scars and the trauma it leaves. Toxic people go after your self-esteem, your independence, your support system, and anything else that has nothing to do with them or does not suit them. So when looking to exit a toxic relationship, you must be very specific and know what you are capable of. I…

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Dating In The Now

Coming from a proud, card-carrying member of Generation X, dating in the now can be beyond frustrating. It used to be you meet someone at work, through a friend, at a bar, etc. You were forced to know how to make eye contact, have a conversation, get to know that person via a series of phone conversations and dates. You automatically recognized if you were…

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What Does A Co-Dependent Relationship Look Like

We have all heard this word. It seems to have become a buzzword when it comes to unhealthy relationships. Whether you are questioning if you are a co-dependent person or would like to know what it is, this article is for you. Co-dependency is a dysfunctional relationship/behavior type where the person(s) shows excessive emotional or psychological reliance on a partner. Through this behavior, it enables…

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How To Push Through A Difficult Time

So, we all go through this. Life is not a straight line; it has peaks and valleys. And, on occasion, those valleys run very deep. One roadblock can turn into multiple. We don’t always know how to cope through those difficult times. Well, I’m here to help. Let’s begin with loving yourself. Don’t ever turn your back on yourself. What do I mean by this? You need…

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How Can I Forgive Myself For Making Mistakes

“To err is human” – who said that? Believe it or not, if you are human, you are going to make mistakes. Believe it or not, perfection does not exist. I will let those words sit with you for a second. I will repeat them. Perfection does not exist. This is not an easy concept to understand. We have all been brought up with the…

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The Magic Of A Pro’s and Con’s List

A show of hands; Who has heard of a Pros and Cons list? I am assuming everyone’s hands are up. So, I can presume that you all have made at least one, as well. I developed a way to take your pros and cons list to the next level. It goes beyond weighing out how many pros to cons. As I have learned we sometimes…

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5 Steps To Changing A Habit

Warning: Forming any new habit is a long process and not an easy one either. Before we can form anything new, we need to purge the old. Moving on beyond those old habits can be extremely challenging because we don’t always take the time to a) look at them and b) they’re ingrained in us. NUMBER ONE Do not attempt to change more than one habit…

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How To Get Promoted

We all want to get ahead, and, let’s face it, some of us don’t know how to do that. Below are some guaranteed tips to help you get noticed and land that promotion. DRESS TO IMPRESS Even if you work in an environment that has casual Friday every day, you will still want to kick it up a notch. It is always important to present…

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Remodel Your Expectations

Recently, I wrote an article about How Expectations Can F$%K Up Your Relationships. If you have always had expectations of people and have been disappointed, how can you change that? Let’s dig a little deeper into the four changes that were mentioned in the original article. CAPABILITY Has this person shown you that they are capable of the behavior you expect from them? (emotion/attitude/action) We are…

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Office Politics And What To Avoid

You and your coworkers are chitchatting, discussing, the game or what happened on This Is Us last night, and the next thing you know…someone starts complaining about their boss, a new hire, a companywide decision that was made, etc. The first urge is to participate. These are your work friends, after all. However, what this really is…is office politics. Office politics can run the gamut…

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How Expectations Can F$%K Up Your Relationships

We all have expectations. Whether it’s expectations of families, partners, bosses, ourselves, how our waitstaff should behave, etc. Any expectation you have can lead to disappointment. This is not saying that every person in your life will cause disappointment. It means that you need to be able to see people realistically and not expect more from them. I’ll give the example of my mom. I…

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How To Prevent A Co-Dependent Relationship

  If you’ve had codependent relationships in the past, the chances are high that you’ll enter another one. Now you know you want to steer clear of those types of relationships. You need to know what to look for to prevent another codependent relationship. Those red flags, blaring sirens, and signs are there. That’s exactly what you’re going to learn in this article.  Signs You…

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The Art Of Putting Yourself First

  A very wise person once said: “Choose to put yourself first and make you a priority. It’s not selfish, it’s necessary.” I find it disheartening that it is a struggle to put one’s needs ahead of others. What makes them and their needs more important than you? The answer is “nothing!”  I refer to this as backwards thinking. Take this in, if anything else….

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The In’s and Out’s of Couples Coaching

  Before we jump into the meat of this article, there’s one piece of advice we’d like to emphasize. Before working with any life coach, please make sure this person is a certified coach. What this means is they completed the program’s intense curriculum and are qualified to coach you towards your goals, whether it’s individual or couple’s coaching you’re seeking. You’ll be able to…

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Staying Positive In A Crazy World

  Yes, I know this is the 600 millionth article about trying to stay positive in a world that has gone out of control. But man, doesn’t it seem like things are getting nuttier by the minute? Something new happens every day that makes us want to hide under the covers. So, despite a bazillion and a half articles out there already, I wanted to…

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How To Maintain A Healthy Relationship

  Most of us have, at one time or another, been in an unhealthy relationship. Whether it was just a bad connection, toxic, or it didn’t work out and faded on its own, the experience shapes how we look at the next in our line of relationships.  If you’re hoping to break your unhealthy relationship cycle, you’ve come to the right place. Let’s explore a…

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What Does Commitment Look Like

  You’re in a committed relationship. What does that look like? Is it healthy? Are you both on the same page? Commitment doesn’t mean the same to everyone, despite our assumptions. Read on to learn if your committed relationship is healthy, and what you can do if it’s not.  What Is Commitment? The plural noun, Oxford dictionary definition of commitment is, “a pledge or undertaking”….

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The Most Important Relationship Factors

  Imagine a relationship is like a car. You can’t drive without the wheels, right? So, in any relationship, you need four working wheels. We will call these the non-negotiables.  I have this concept when it comes to relationships. There’s the core, or what I like to call the four wheels. And, then, there’s the engine that keeps the relationship, well, running. The wheels are…

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Four Steps to Self Commitment

We hear the word and say the word, but do we know what it really means? And, are we putting it into practice? How To Define Commitment To Oneself We can Google it and get the standard definition. However, when we make a commitment to ourselves or another it is dedicating yourself regardless of the outcome. I will commit to meditating every day, even if the…

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Make Your Dreams A Reality

Sure. Okay. Does the concept of making your dreams come true seem much easier to say than do? If you think so, that is totally normal. But that does not mean it is impossible or difficult. It can be done. Just trust me, read on if you are committed to taking the first steps.   How To Begin Turning Those Dreams To Reality You’ve been…

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Coaching vs. Therapy

Two of the main questions I get asked are,  “What is the difference between Coaching and Therapy?” and “Is life coaching similar to talk therapy?” Both are legit questions. After all, you need to be able to decide which is better for your needs, a life coach or a therapist. Below you will find a breakdown of the differences The 9 Main Differences Between Life…

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Me Against My Oven

  The following story can also be called “How I Coached Myself To Overcome Doubt” The conversation went something like this: Me: What would you like me to bring to Thanksgiving dinner? Mom: I am not sure. Dad: Scalloped potatoes Me: Sounds good. And The Panic Sets In I have never made scalloped potatoes before. Also, I get nervous cooking for everyone in my family….

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Re-framing A Negative Situation Into A Positive One

There will always be bad days in our lives. Even bad moments. It is up to us whether we let those bad moments eat us alive or do something about them. When we are in the midst of a distressing time we often find it nearly impossible to pick ourselves up and try to enjoy life again. It can be a series of small instances…

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How To Maintain Your Relationship Once You Have Found Love

Relationships can be very fickle. But, the important ones, friendships, family, partners, are important to maintain. You have to work consistently and diligently on them. You have a partner with you who might be your soulmate, but a few bad habits could jeopardize the stability of your relationship. Most relationships have the tendency to become stagnant as time progresses, which can be more hurtful at…

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How An Awesome Attitude Can Bring You An Awesome Life

It is very common to focus on the negative and overlook the positive. People often focus on the worst rather than the little things that make life worth living. You will find a lot of people who will keep narrating all the things that are going wrong in their lives, and why they are unhappy. This, in turn, makes them feel more miserable rather than…

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Changing Careers At Any Age

The working class of today has changed significantly in their planning and morals compared to past generations. People don’t enter a company with the thought of staying for a remarkably long time. They often plan on staying at their first company for up to 6 months and then move on to other ventures. You might wonder if it’s too late to change careers, especially once…

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Pick Yourself Up When You Are Having A Bad Day

Everybody has a bad day or two once in a while. Sometimes it’s because an object or person triggered a sad memory from your past, other times there doesn’t seem to be a particular reason behind it. But that does not mean you cannot turn it around. You are the one in charge of your day and no one can ruin it if you don’t…

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Why Apologizing Will Make You Feel Better About Yourself

An apology is not only a rule of the polite society. It is a ritual. When you apologize you show respect and empathy for the person who has been wronged. Apologizing means that you acknowledge a wrongful act that you committed which ended up hurting the other person physically, emotionally, and/or mentally. Apologies always helps in making a bad situation better. Sometimes, it may seem…

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Practice These Methods To Stop Making Mistakes

We, as humans, are bound to repeat our mistakes and face the same consequences. This is because when we face stressful situations, we retreat into a comfort zone that we create as toddlers. It is in this comfort zone that we have stored certain habits of emotion regulation. And sometimes, we tend to make the same mistakes, over and over. But, you can learn from…

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Follow These Proven Steps To Get Ahead In Your Career

Several people, either looking for a job or employed, seem to be stuck in their career line at the moment. There’s something holding them back, and they can’t put their finger on what it is. The main reason is that they play by the rules that seem to have been set in stone. But you don’t have to make the same mistakes; you can get…

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How To Triumph Over Negative Thoughts

Language has the power to make or break a person. We are talking about the words that are not spoken but stay inside our heads. These words make up the everlasting string of private thoughts, attitudes, and emotions, and they also help shape how we take in and perceive the world around us. There are ways to triumph over those negative thoughts. The Power Of…

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Are You Co-Dependent

How can you tell if you are co-dependent? There are so many different definitions out there. The fact is, codependence is challenging to condense into a singular definition. Here are a couple of definitions that stand out: Someone cannot function from his or her innate self and instead organizes thinking and behavior around a substance, process, or other people. In a negatively reinforcing loop, underdeveloped…

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Damn You, John Hughes

Sometimes you just need to say it. Damn you, John Hughes. We all want the fairytale. We all want the butterflies. The happy ending and what we imagine that comes after the credits roll. Anyone who has grown up watching Jake Ryan waiting for Samantha Baker outside the church, Richard Gere kissing Julia Roberts on the fire escape, seeing Tom Hanks and Meg Ryan on…

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Don’t Give Up On Yourself

How do we know when we have given up on ourselves? When we accept the status quo of our lives and resign to the idea that things will never change or get better. Stepping outside of the familiar can be a scary place to be, especially when we feel that we have attempted that in the past with failing results, sub-par success and/or not being…

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Mistakes Your Brain Makes

Well, now you know your brain makes mistakes without you even realizing it. In fact, it is probably making a few mistakes as you are reading these words. Yep, you read that right. Your mind is full of biases based on your past experiences. And it is not just you. That holds true for every one of us. It is like we are all inmates…

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Nothing Is Going Right

Below is a great list of things to remember when everything seems to be going wrong. I picked up the list from the Marc and Angel blog. Let’s talk some truth before we begin. If you believe that happiness is the absence of problems you would be mistaken. A part of you being happy is how you deal with your problems. It is not what…

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Personal Responsibility

Let’s start off with what does personal responsibility really mean? Taking care of your commitments, being accountable, making your own decisions/choices. So, what happens in our lives when we are taking personal responsibility? What happens when we hold ourselves responsible for our own, well, ignorance? There is a freedom we feel from being 100% honest with ourselves. We are not meant to be victims or…

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Pushing Through

You have yourself organized, you know the steps you want to take, things are going smoothly, you are handling the setbacks and appreciating the successes…and then…it all stops! Anything could have triggered it. A bad mood, one set back too many, etc. Does this sound familiar? The question is how do we recover and get back on track? How do we push through a difficult…

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Strengthen Your Relationship

I have been thinking as of late about ways to strengthen your relationships. I came across this article by Barton Goldsmith. In the article, there were these seven questions. They really resonated with me. I work with a lot of couples and assist them with their communication. It is quite amazing how much happier and easier a relationship can be when the lines of communication…

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The Addiction Of Crazy Busy

Does it seem that so many of us out there wear a busy-ness badge of honor? This is what the attitude seems to be… I am busy, therefore I am important and valuable, therefore I am worthy. And if I am not busy, forget it. I do not matter. THE ADDICTION OF CRAZY-BUSY As a culture, we shame people who are addicted to drugs and…

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Am I My Own Enemy

According to Brendon Burchard, we have three great enemies that prevent us from advancing our lives, from actualizing our potential and from living our dreams. Let’s take a look… DOUBT We doubt whether or not we are capable. We doubt whether or not we are worthy. We doubt whether or not we will succeed. We doubt whether or not we even deserve it. All of…

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5 Steps Before Looking For Love

Are you interested in being part of a committed relationship? Get on a path, begin to walk on it. There will, of course, be ties of confusion and feelings of hopelessness and other roadblocks. As with any path that is taken, pushing those roadblocks are the key to getting to where you want to go. This path is taking you to a life partner. Besides…

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Are You In A Toxic Relationship

Most of us have experienced one or more toxic relationships. (you could be in one right now). We question how they can be avoided and maybe even if we are the toxic person. We ask ourselves why, after experiencing past toxic relationships, we continue to have them? Why are we vulnerable to the toxic relationship lure? Do we possess some magnetic force that pulls us…

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Avoid Regret

After reading this from Marc and Angel, I immediately knew that I needed to share with commentary. It resonates greatly with my clients and I myself have felt some of these things from time to time. Regrets. The fact is, everyone does. We all look back and look ahead and would like to avoid certain things. What is so great about these choices, is that…

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Be Mentally Strong

I am going to turn things around a little bit here. Instead of writing about what it means to be mentally strong…I have put a list below of things that mentally strong people do not do. So, step one is going to be to mark the ones that you do. (Disclaimer: these do not need to reflect constant behavior but you’re typical go to space)…

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Ready To Be More Productive

We all have a story and lots of good reasons why we are not as productive as we want to be. There is too much to do and too little time. I am always overwhelmed. I cannot concentrate. On top of it, I am sure we can all appreciate the beauty of sleeping in. I do believe that with a positive, consistent morning routine you…

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Beauty Is Number 11

It is true there are things that are more important than beauty. We are all conditioned to think that everything is about looks. If we look beyond that though, we know deep down that it is really not the truth, like at all. Somebody being attracted to you has more do with your face, body type, facial hair, cheekbones, etc. It runs deeper than that….

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Clearing Negative Energy

As a Certified Life and Relationship Coach since 2003, I have helped a wide variety of clients: From women who are looking to advance in their careers, men who are wanting to create more work/life balance and to teenagers who are learning how to set school and life goals. The one thing that they all have in common is dealing with Negative Energy. So, where…

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Fear Is A Four Letter Word

We have all heard it…fear is not real. It is in your head. Well, it sure feels real. When I am looking up at a massive roller coaster that my kids want me to go on, the fear that is surging through me…feels pretty damn real. So let’s clarify. Being scared and fear are two different things. I am scared of roller coasters, I don’t…

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Who Am I

We are all looking to know ourselves betters. Think about all the Buzzfeed quizzes out there. I find this a lot in my practice as well. The age-old questions “Who am I?” and “How do I find myself again?” Gretchen Rubin, the author of The Happiness Project says in order to find your own identity, we can ask ourselves five questions. Let’s see… WHO DO…

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Five Steps To End A Toxic Relationship

Ending relationships are never easy. Breaking out of a toxic relationship is so complicated and very hard. Here are a couple of articles to determine if your relationship is toxic: Are You in a Toxic Relationship and How to Tell if You are Codependent. After reading these articles, you see that these types of toxic relationships are extremely layered. They are based on manipulation and…

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Wanted: A Good Man

So, everyone obviously is different. We all have different upbringings and come from different circumstances, right? Of course, right. In saying that…the following list of traits/habits/behaviors of a “good man” cannot be disputed. They are universal. The below is not just for women, it is for the guys as well. Sometimes, it can be hard to recognize a good man because we don’t always know…

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I Do…Maybe

Are you getting ready to walk down the aisle with the person of your dreams? Have you and your partner talked about all the in’s and out’s of being in a lifelong relationship? It’s normal to be unsure about getting married. That’s why preparedness is crucial! Check out the following talking points…make sure you and your partner are on the same page and know what…

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It’s A Brain Thing

I am an optimist.  This means that my tendency is to look on the favorable side of life and to expect the most favorable outcome. Being an optimist means that I hold the belief that good ultimately predominates over evil in the world. I have been thinking a great deal about how people have a tendency to be either optimistic or pessimistic (if optimists look…

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It Is Not You, It Is Them

Crazy-makers come in all shapes and sizes. They can have good and bad intentions. Some know they are being manipulative and oppressive. Others have not got a clue. Some engage in their tactics consistently. Others provide intermittent surprise attacks. The challenge is to recognize the behavior, assess if it’s a healthy or unhealthy place, and then employ the proper strategies to stay sane and empower…

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Let’s De-Clutter

Clutter in our lives, wherever it appears, drains us of our energy. Have you ever noticed how an unresolved conflict in an important relationship distracts you from having fun with that person? Or how irritating it is to start dinner in a dirty kitchen? Or how it seems important to organize your desk before beginning a project? How Do You Start De-Cluttering? De-cluttering is a…

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Let’s Form Better Habits

“The first step in forming better habits is to change your beliefs about yourself.“ (James Clear, 2014)   How do you build an identity that is inline with your goals? How can you change your beliefs and make it easier to stick with good habits for the long run? Let’s take a look-see…   Okay, now the breakdown… Hypothetically, let’s say you want to be…

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Love Is A Tricky Proposition

Sure, we all want love. We look. And, we search. We find and then…why is it so damn hard to keep? And, how do we even know if we’re ready for that relationship? Let’s say hypothetically that it is the right relationship, seemingly at the right time. Listed below are some very common errors that we make that will certainly ensure the end of the…

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Moving On From Loss

We can experience grief whenever there is a loss. The loss of health, a close relationship, and of course death. The five stages of grief are universal. They do not necessarily occur in any particular order, although the final stage is always Acceptance. Each stage has different lengths of working through each step, and different levels of intensity. Grief is experienced differently by everyone, both…

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Why Is She Not Initiating Sex?

Are you in this situation? Tired of initiating sex all the time? Wondering why your woman is not putting her hand down your pants? WARNING: There are times and places to ask your woman why, and while in bed with her is NOT one of them. Try over a dinner when she is not so exposed or feeling fragile. Asking a woman why she does…

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Nothing Is Going Right

Below is a great list of things to remember when everything seems to be going wrong that I picked up from the Marc and Angel blog. Let’s talk some truth before we begin. If you believe that happiness is the absence of problems you would be mistaken. A part of you being happy is how you deal with your problems. It is not what the…

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I Think That Person Is A Pathological Liar

Have you ever thought to yourself…”hmmm, I think that person is a pathological liar.” Well, you might just be right. Being lied to on a regular basis can be extremely frustrating and hurtful. Eventually, the lying will lead to disrespect and deception. WHAT IS A PATHOLOGICAL LIAR?   There is a big difference between compulsive and pathological liars. Pathological liars are actually addicted to lying….

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Recovering From A Set Back

Does this sound familiar? You have yourself organized, you know the steps you want to take, things are going smoothly, you are handling the setbacks and appreciating the successes…and then…it all stops! Anything could have triggered it. A bad mood, one set back too many, etc. The question is how do we recover from a setback and get back on track Starting your own business,…

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Unpleasant Surprises

“How do I stop reacting to triggers?”. That’s a question I get asked a lot. It all starts from a place of choices. Even when it feels like we have no choices, that life has made the choices for us, there are always choices and options.  The choices may not be concrete all the time or even obvious. Check Your Attitude It can begin with…

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Something May Not Be Right

Sometimes it can be hard to tell if there is something off with our friends, partners, work relationships, etc. Here are some check-in tips to find out. Tips To Tell If Something Is Off NOTE HOW THEY ACT AROUND YOU Are you being ignored, gossiping about you, being mean, putting you down, breaking promises to you, implying that you are somehow lacking? Are you not…

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Strategies For Dealing With A Crazy Maker

I suggest before reading this, take the time to read: It’s Not You. It’s Them. Now, that you recognize what a crazy maker is, here are some tips on how to handle them successfully. TAKE AN OBSERVER’S POINT OF VIEW There is something about detaching and seeing a crazy maker from an observer point of view that helps you not get entangled in their mess….

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Success…So Easy

  What is your definition of success? Everyone has a different definition when it comes to the keys to success. A general way to define: Success is measured from where a person starts to where a person is currently standing. How far you have progressed in your life and under which circumstances you have managed to create positive change are what decide whether or not…

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The Happiness Solution

We seem to live in a world where we are all searching for happiness. So many of us are asking “How do I become happy?” Why is it so hard to find? What is the mystery behind it? What if we stopped trying to be happy and worked on being our ideal selves? Keep reading and find out what this is all about… What Is…

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This Is Work

Are you wondering if you’re in a healthy relationship? Asking yourself these two common questions: “What are the qualities of a healthy relationship?” or “What does a healthy relationship look like?” Gonna break this down. UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS are not satisfying and you will get hurt. HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS are constant work…but the benefits of that work are so damn worth it. So, each morning you need…

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What Is True

I was reading an article recently titled, The Radical Cure for Self-Deception. (By Carrie Flynn February 2010). What does self deceiving mean? Self-deception is a process of denying or rationalizing away the relevance, significance, or importance of opposing evidence and logical argument. It involves convincing oneself of a truth (or lack of truth) so that one does not reveal any self-knowledge of the deception. In…

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Why Is He Withdrawing

In a relationship, having your partner withdraw at an emotional level can bring confusion, pain, and frustration. At some point, every woman has experienced this. We are left feeling bewildered by why and how this happens. Typically, we look at our selves and wonder “What did I do? Why is he withdrawing from me?” The answer to put your mind at ease is nothing (most…

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relationship no-no’s

We search for love…we long for love…we find it…why is it so hard to keep?  So, how do you stop yourself from making relationship mistakes so you can be more secure in them? Below are some no-no’s that we have all been guilty of in some way, shape or form. Bad Ideas In Relationships STOP MAKING EYE CONTACT. Eye contact is intimate. Intimacy in the…

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14 Life Altering Benefits From Hiring A Life Coach

When people hear that I am a Life Coach, the first question is “What is that”? The second question is “How can a life coach possibly help me”? You will find 14 reasons why hiring the right coach for you can be beneficial to your life. ASSIGNMENT When reading each benefit ask yourself, “Is this something I want more of in my life?” (1) FULFILLMENT…

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Life Matters Coaching Blog for things that are not thought in school. This includes setting and achieving goal & objectives, working through blocks & fears, becoming drama free, finding healthy relationships, getting out of a rut, identifying core values, and much much more… Life Matters Coaching for things that are not thought in school. This includes setting and achieving goal & objectives, working through blocks & fears, becoming drama free, finding healthy relationships, getting out of a rut, identifying core values, and much much more… Life Matters Coaching  for things that are not thought in school. This includes setting and achieving goal & objectives, working through blocks & fears, becoming drama free, finding healthy relationships, getting out of a rut, identifying core values, and much much more… Life Matters Coaching  for things that are not thought in school. This includes setting and achieving goal & objectives, working through blocks & fears, becoming drama free, finding healthy relationships, getting out of a rut, identifying core values, and much much more… Life Matters Coaching Blog for things that are not thought in school. This includes setting and achieving goal & objectives, working through blocks & fears, becoming drama free, finding healthy relationships, getting out of a rut, identifying core values, and much much more…

Life Coaching is a profession that is profoundly different from consulting, mentoring, advice, therapy, or counseling. The coaching process addresses specific personal projects, business successes, general conditions and transitions in the client’s personal life, relationships or profession by examining what is going on right now, discovering what your obstacles or challenges might be, and choosing a course of action to make your life be what you want it to be.


How Does Life Coaching Work?

The Life Coaching Format:

  • Complimentary Coaching Consultation
  • 60 to 90 minute “Design the Alliance” first session
  • One 30 to 90 minute phone call per week (session length depends on which coach and which program)
  • Unlimited Email support
  • Occasional brief check-in calls

Life Coaching is a designed alliance between coach and client where the coaching relationship continually gives all the power back to you, the client. We believe that you know the answers to every question or challenge you may have in your life, even if those answers appear to be obscured, concealed or hidden inside.

Our skills are about knowing the right questions to ask and having the right tools and techniques to empower you to find those answers within yourself.

You, the client, are the only expert in your entire life who truly knows who you are and what you need. You are the only expert who can recognize what is absolutely best for you. We are simply experts in the coaching process. As your coach, we help you discover what your own personal “best” might be.

Every day we make choices to do or not do many things. These choices may range from profound to trivial and each one has an effect that makes our lives more fulfilling or less fulfilling, more balanced or less balanced, that make our process of living more effective or less effective. Life coaching helps you learn how to make choices that create an effective, balanced and fulfilling life.

We help you connect your head and your heart in a way that transforms your passion for your dreams into action for your life.

We are highly trained as generalists and can coach superbly on any aspect of life. However, we may choose to specialize in one or more of the following areas :

  •  Confidence, Self Worth & Self Esteem
  •  Loving Relationships That Work
  •  Career Change – Creating Workplaces That Work
  •  The Mastery of Balance – Juggling a Life
  •  Self Care – Getting Your Own Needs Met
  •  Living Your Purpose
  •  Hot Buttons – Managing Anger, Upsets, Frustration and Stress
  •  Managing Grief, Loss, Sadness and Change
  •  Connection Parenting
  •  Self & Identity – Surviving the Oppressive Over-Culture
  •  Homesteading, Environmental Activism & Permaculture
  •  Artists – Creativity & Art
  •  Food, Nutrition, & Optimal Health

Please see our individual pages to determine which coach is most appropriate for your needs. Take this moment to contact us right now for your complimentary consultation to find out what life coaching can do for you. This one click can change your life forever.