So, everyone obviously is different. We all have different upbringings and come from different circumstances, right? Of course, right.
In saying that…the following list of traits/habits/behaviors of a “good man” cannot be disputed. They are universal. The below is not just for women, it is for the guys as well.
Sometimes, it can be hard to recognize a good man because we don’t always know what constitutes one.
Read on to find out what a good guy looks like…
A GOOD MAN IS NEVER ABUSIVE
There are three main types of abuse – physical, emotional and mental. They all have one thing in common: The desire to break another down. A good man recognizes that his confidence and worth comes from within himself, and never from attempting to place others below him.
A GOOD MAN DOES NOT CHEAT
Monogamy is a choice made by the two people in a relationship. It is a decision. A good man will never cheat in a relationship because cheating means going back on his word and breaking a promise he has made to someone he loves.
A GOOD MAN DOES NOT DISCOURAGE
A sign of a person’s confidence in themselves is how they help to support the ambition of others. A good man will always be willing to help and support those around him, and will never be discouraging or insulting.
A GOOD MAN WILL NEVER LET YOU FORGET YOUR WORTH
A good man who truly cares about his partner will never let them forget how much he values them and how important they are. He will understand the importance of giving as much as he receives (or more) and that open communication will decrease insecurities in a relationship.
A GOOD MAN DOES NOT AVOID DIFFICULT DISCUSSIONS
A good man understands that no problem can be resolved until it is faced. The only thing that avoidance of difficulties will accomplish, is delaying the inevitable and potentially making things worse. Note: there is a difference between choosing your battles and avoiding conflict altogether.
A GOOD MAN DOES NOT LOOK FOR CONFLICT
In addition to knowing when a conversation needs to be had and when it is better to let an issue slide, a good man will not seek out or look to start a conflict between himself and another. Whether it be a stranger at a bar or his significant other. There will be no need to prove “dominance” when someone is comfortable with themselves.
A GOOD MAN IS NOT SELFISH
When it comes to helping a person in need, a good man will always be willing to step up to the plate. He understands the importance of contributing to both individuals and society and makes it a regular habit to do so. There is no room for selfish behavior. There is no room for those who believe climbing the ladder means stepping on others along the way. There is no room for those who mistreat others for their own benefit or any reason at all. A good man is not kind to people because of who they are, he is kind to people because of who he is.
A GOOD MAN IS NEVER DISRESPECTFUL
Easy. Simple. Basic. But, often overlooked. A good man will show respect to everyone around him. He will not be condescending or put anyone down, regardless of intelligence level or professional position. As the saying goes ‘a man of quality is not afraid of equality.’
There is no universal formula for what constitutes a “good man.” Everyone has their own unique ambitions defining the profile of the person we are working to become and develop into…These above qualities are very important and universal. Do not expect that anyone you are with or interested in to change. Meet the person as they are not, not who you think they will become later on.
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