5 Steps Before Looking For Love

Are you interested in being part of a committed relationship?

Get on a path, begin to walk on it.

There will, of course, be ties of confusion and feelings of hopelessness and other roadblocks. As with any path that is taken, pushing those roadblocks are the key to getting to where you want to go.

This path is taking you to a life partner.

Besides roadblocks, there are things to learn on this path.

Understand that we all have a certain amount of healing to do. Healing steps. These steps bring us closer to our true self.



Love yourself

Have you been in love before? Did you get hurt?

After a number of times eventually, you have to look yourself and say…what is up? I am a lovable, awesome person, what is the deal?

Do you love yourself?

Hmmmm. How do you do that? How do you learn to love yourself, especially before loving someone else.

Isn’t love for the people around us?

Learning to love ourselves, being in a relationship with yourself is a crucial step on your path to a healthy, lasting, committed relationship.



Everyone has a past.

Often times it is difficult not to get caught up in the past and the feelings and memories that come along with that.

Opening your heart means, breath some new air in there. There is plenty of room. It is not necessary to let go of everything so your heart is empty before meeting the “the one”.

It is necessary to let go of what feelings from the past you have.

And, this is the step you need to take if you’ve been using sex as a means to avoid an emotional intimacy.



make a list

Sure, this has been done. Everyone says to make a list. It is, however, a very powerful exercise to perform. Create a list of the qualities you are looking for in a partner. What is most important to you? Over the course of time when you are traveling on your path, the list can be refined. In order to find what you want, you really need to have a clear idea of what you are looking for.



Sound strange? Not so much. Think about it.

Because it is unknown when or where you find your life partner, you will be single.

What positivity can come from this? A relationship is not everything.

It is one part of your life.

Live your life, make your plan, enjoy your time. If you are not in love with yourself first, who are you going to be and will you attract?

And, learn to share when you’re just not ready for a relationship or dating.


grieve for losses

It is perfectly fine to feel sadness. It is perfectly normal to feel that heaviness in your heart.

Grieve whatever you may be hanging on to.

The loss of a loved one, a divorce, a job, a past relationship. Feel the sadness, focus on the life experience that these loses gave you.

Your heart will open.

You will become more open to life’s experiences. You will ensure that you are not looking for someone to take away your sadness, but someone to share it with.

The bottom line is to love yourself. Be good to yourself. Your eternal happiness cannot be based on whether you have someone else to share your life with because you have you.

Having someone to witness your life and share life with you is wonderful. It is right…and you need to be right…in order for it to come along.

Stay on your path. Develop yourself. Love will come.